A research conducted two years ago, showed that almost 50% of women have been in either a physical or an emotionally abusive relationship and Western fairy tales and Conservative culture is the direct cause to it.
The research shows that, conservative culture and western fairy tales have been working hand in hand to brain wash women to believe in an unhealthy and unrealistic view of love, relationship and happiness, since a young age. This caused many women to look for a constructed version of happiness that is removed from reality and become vulnerable to predators who use this to their advantage.
The research conducted by psychologist Dr. Xxxx (which I forgot her name and I can not find it on the internet either.) stated that, conservative culture have create an illusion which makes women believes that, a happy and successful woman, is a woman who have a man. It constructed an idea that, no matter how successful you are in your career or as a mother or how happy your life is, the only definition of success or happiness for a woman is whether you have a man. Dr. Xxxx stated that, this resulted in many women to be looking for a man at all cost and if they can not find a decent guy, they will go for a settle for second grade male or even a male that can be abusive or even problematic, just so they can at least have a man in their life.
Fairy tale is also a major cause of abusive relationship amount females. Dr. Xxxx believe that because girls grow up been bombarded by the story of Cinderella, Snow White, Sleeping Beauty and other fairy tale princess. This result in girls growing up, tending to believing that the happiness within these story is what true happiness is suppose to be like, what true love is suppose to be like and to an even greater extend what a girl is suppose to be like. The result is that predators used these weaknesses to their advantage by presenting girls with an illusion of such fairy tale happiness and trapping them in an abusive relationship.
The major problem with the fairy tale version of happiness is that it really removed from reality. The subconscious truth about fairy tales is to firstly reinforcing conservative ideologies using of plot and story, where the mean doesn’t justify the end and secondly to fulfill male sexual desire.
In Snow White, Cinderella and Sleeping Beauty for example, they all reinforce the idea that true happiness for a woman is heterosexual marriage and looking for a prince charming and a woman that do not convert to these ideology should be unhappy. However, none of these fairy tale stories give their readers a justify reason of why it is the case.
For example, in Snow White and Cinderella it simply stated that, they live happily ever after, but did not tell their readers why. I mean if Snow White’s prince is a funny guy who makes her laugh or if Cinderella and her prince are soul mates, then it might justify their happiness to a certain extend. But imagine if Snow White’s prince is a snobby player who can’t stay faithful or if Cinderella’s prince is a repulsive wife beater. Would Snow White be so happy and would Cinderella be happier with her prince, then in comparison with her evil step mother?
However, the fairy tales simply stated these girls to be living happily ever after with their prince, without telling their readers any reason why. Cinderella and Snow White are not the only fairy tales which said the girls live happily ever after, without justifying why. In fact there is a whole category of fairy tale, which also reinforces the idea that happiness for a girl is heterosexual marriage and prince charming, without giving their readers any reasons.
According to Dr. Xxxx, it is because girls have been bombarded by stories like Snow White, Sleeping Beauty and Cinderella, since their childhood, that they spend a quantity of their adulthood searching for this unrealistic version of love and relationship and it is why, predators can use this weakness to manipulate a woman into an abusive relationship and keeping her within his restrain.
Dr. Xxxx is not the first person to come up with this form of view about fairy tales. In fact the problematic natural of fairy tale is something that has been noticed by a lot of scholars, within the field of psychology, linguistic and social and culture analysis, including Virginal Wolf (I think, I am not sure about her), James Finn Garner, Sigmund Freud (who is been consider as the father of psychology by many.) and even my own culture study tutor from Uni Dr. Kishani Pilapitiya.
Amount all of these scholars Sigmund Freud went further to argue that fairy tale is really a representation of male sexual desire. He wrote for example that, the princesses within every single fairy tale are young, innocent, naïve, passive and extremely beautiful. To explain what Sigmund Freud is saying here in my own words is that, all of the princesses within these stories are extremely attractive looking girls or young women, they are good at
heart not because they are wise, but because they are innocent (just to clarify here, there are two sort of good people in the world. The first sorts are innocent people. The second sorts are people that are wise.), the princesses are extremely passive and it is extremely easy to get them into bed with you, in other word a seductive object of pure sexual desire.
PS: If anybody know any additional information in regards to this topic or happens to know that I might have made a mistake within the information I have given above, please feel free to make a comment about it.
I am quite certain that my information is accurate, but just in case, feel free to make a comment if you happen to know that I have made a mistake amount the information I have given above.
And pleasssssssse, if any body knows the real name of Dr. Xxxx, can you please write it down for me within the comments pleasssssssse?
Oh yes and if you know any additional information in regards to this topic, please feel free to make a comment about it.
Cheers
The research shows that, conservative culture and western fairy tales have been working hand in hand to brain wash women to believe in an unhealthy and unrealistic view of love, relationship and happiness, since a young age. This caused many women to look for a constructed version of happiness that is removed from reality and become vulnerable to predators who use this to their advantage.
The research conducted by psychologist Dr. Xxxx (which I forgot her name and I can not find it on the internet either.) stated that, conservative culture have create an illusion which makes women believes that, a happy and successful woman, is a woman who have a man. It constructed an idea that, no matter how successful you are in your career or as a mother or how happy your life is, the only definition of success or happiness for a woman is whether you have a man. Dr. Xxxx stated that, this resulted in many women to be looking for a man at all cost and if they can not find a decent guy, they will go for a settle for second grade male or even a male that can be abusive or even problematic, just so they can at least have a man in their life.
The major problem with the fairy tale version of happiness is that it really removed from reality. The subconscious truth about fairy tales is to firstly reinforcing conservative ideologies using of plot and story, where the mean doesn’t justify the end and secondly to fulfill male sexual desire.
For example, in Snow White and Cinderella it simply stated that, they live happily ever after, but did not tell their readers why. I mean if Snow White’s prince is a funny guy who makes her laugh or if Cinderella and her prince are soul mates, then it might justify their happiness to a certain extend. But imagine if Snow White’s prince is a snobby player who can’t stay faithful or if Cinderella’s prince is a repulsive wife beater. Would Snow White be so happy and would Cinderella be happier with her prince, then in comparison with her evil step mother?
However, the fairy tales simply stated these girls to be living happily ever after with their prince, without telling their readers any reason why. Cinderella and Snow White are not the only fairy tales which said the girls live happily ever after, without justifying why. In fact there is a whole category of fairy tale, which also reinforces the idea that happiness for a girl is heterosexual marriage and prince charming, without giving their readers any reasons.
According to Dr. Xxxx, it is because girls have been bombarded by stories like Snow White, Sleeping Beauty and Cinderella, since their childhood, that they spend a quantity of their adulthood searching for this unrealistic version of love and relationship and it is why, predators can use this weakness to manipulate a woman into an abusive relationship and keeping her within his restrain.
Dr. Xxxx is not the first person to come up with this form of view about fairy tales. In fact the problematic natural of fairy tale is something that has been noticed by a lot of scholars, within the field of psychology, linguistic and social and culture analysis, including Virginal Wolf (I think, I am not sure about her), James Finn Garner, Sigmund Freud (who is been consider as the father of psychology by many.) and even my own culture study tutor from Uni Dr. Kishani Pilapitiya.
Amount all of these scholars Sigmund Freud went further to argue that fairy tale is really a representation of male sexual desire. He wrote for example that, the princesses within every single fairy tale are young, innocent, naïve, passive and extremely beautiful. To explain what Sigmund Freud is saying here in my own words is that, all of the princesses within these stories are extremely attractive looking girls or young women, they are good at
PS: If anybody know any additional information in regards to this topic or happens to know that I might have made a mistake within the information I have given above, please feel free to make a comment about it.
I am quite certain that my information is accurate, but just in case, feel free to make a comment if you happen to know that I have made a mistake amount the information I have given above.
And pleasssssssse, if any body knows the real name of Dr. Xxxx, can you please write it down for me within the comments pleasssssssse?
Oh yes and if you know any additional information in regards to this topic, please feel free to make a comment about it.
Cheers
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